Shauna with Jon Brooks 6/1/19 |
Friends and family worry about me, because I am the
caregiver. Shauna has suffered from a myriad of debilitating chronic illnesses,
likely triggered by an episode of severe food poisoning, which almost killed
her she was a young woman. I was well aware of Shauna’s medical condition before
we married, but I knew in my heart that there was enough love and mutual respect
to make the marriage work. I don’t think anyone knows for sure what a lifetime commitment
is going to entail, and judging from divorce statistics nowadays, a lot of
folks throw in the towel before they find out. No one, regardless of their
circumstances, escapes adversity in their lives. These past two years have proved
to be a test for us. Anyone put in this position knows how hard it can be emotionally,
both on the caregiver, and on the one who is ill. The logical advice is that caregivers
need to take care of themselves so that they can take care of others, but it’s
remarkable how that logic goes out the window when the sh#t hits the fan. The
good news is that Shauna seems to have weathered this latest storm, and is
beginning to recover from the neurological attack which came close to blinding
her.
On our anniversary, we spent the day in Huntsville,
took a short walk, enjoyed a great iced coffee at The Nutty Chocolatier, and ended
the day with a sumptuous feast at the Tall Trees Restaurant. To most, these
activities would have seemed mundane, but to a couple sidelined by illness,
this was a long overdue vacation. In this report I often speak about losing perspective.
In my youth I took a lot for granted, but have lately begun to feel thankful
for simpler things. It is largely a North American myth
that material possessions and monetary wealth are the only measures of
prosperity, but I’ve learned a hard lesson that prosperity without health and contentment
is meaningless.
Last
Saturday night, Shauna and I attended a house concert together, featuring the
brilliant Jon Brooks, one of our favorite songwriters (accompanied by bassist
Vivienne Wilder and our own Sean Cotton on guitar). The concert was held at the
Bracebridge home of Hunters Bay Radio host and friend Silver Lake Joe Thompson
and his wife Corinna. It was a wonderful night of music and laughter. Since
Shauna’s re-entry into the outside world, we have attended two excellent house
concerts in Muskoka, both having occurred within the last month. After music
brought us together, twenty-five years ago last Wednesday, I married the woman
I deemed to be my soul mate. Shauna, I’m glad you’re starting to get back on
your feet, and that we are once again sharing live performances together. Here’s
hoping we will attend many more concerts, side by side, throughout next twenty-five
years!
Written by Jamie Oppenheimer ©2019
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
jamieoppenheimersongwriter@gmail.com
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
jamieoppenheimersongwriter@gmail.com
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